If you haven't heard the news, I've moved to a new website, one where I can host and teach workshops online, and the student/participant will always have access to the courses they've purchased without having to download and keep track of each one individually. I'm really proud of the way it turned out. And excited at the potential that is there. Still it was no small investment of my resources, my time, energy, finances, and emotions have been all tied up in this endeavor. There is an ongoing task list of things to do there as I continue to add content and explore the working dynamics of the platform.
With the new website, comes a new blog. I've already posted nearly a dozen blog posts there since opening day just a month ago. I've yet to find a way for readers to subscribe to the blog the way that you can on this one, but I'm still learning. My plan was to close this blog once I mined the old posts for those I wanted to migrate to the new one, but instead, I've decided to repurpose it.
I know there are a few hundred subscribers here who receive my posts in email format, so I'm writing this mostly to give you fair warning. My art practice has moved, here on the old blog, I will begin to allow myself the release of writing more personal posts about my life and experiences. I've always written in this way, but typically as it pertains to the art I'm making, and as I share my insights and life lessons learned. I will continue that over on the new blog. Here I will share more memoir, short story essay, letters to myself, letters to whoever might need to hear what I have to share, diary style entries, and deeply personal and meaningful thoughts as I work through whatever issue I am facing that day.
In May of this year, I was diagnosed as a neurodivergent. It has been such a relief and an eye opener to review my life with this new insight. I am Autistic, my traits fall heavily into the ADHD spectrum, so its a double whammy, and I am also Dyspraxic - meaning my brain sometimes sends my body the wrong signals and I easily walk into walls, spill my coffee, hit my face with my car door breaking my front teeth (only one of the pinnacle of incidents leading me to seek the diagnosis), and frequently causing my mouth to spit out the wrong word, wrong name, or mispronounce something I've said a million times before. And then shockingly to me, I am also slightly Dyslexic.
My IQ test revealed a higher than average intelligence, but my functioning life scores were embarrassingly low. The psychiatrist explained I must have developed a strong sense of intuition to be able to adapt to the demands of a daily existence not knowing the cause of the internal struggles that are my constant. It all explains so much.
Saying a diagnosis is a relief allows some to believe I am doing just fine. And I am, sort of-ish. Mainly because my physical and emotional pain thresholds are high. I am fine in the way that I am sitting up and still trying to function. It has been hands down one of the most difficult years of my life. That pinnacle of events I mentioned leading to the diagnosis, was a hellscape of traumas piling on top of each other, much of which are ongoing. Suffocating and debilitating.
I now know the proper terms for the way these experiences are affecting me. This year has been mostly consumed by a state of Autistic Burnout. Autistic meltdown after autistic meltdown, has left me incapable of performing daily tasks, functioning at a normal level, communicating well, or maintaining so many things in my life that are important to me. I've been operating out of hyper-vigilance survival mode. And from an outward perspective, I've not allowed myself to reveal even a fraction of what is happening behind the scenes. Writing has always come easier to me then speaking, I can craft a post and edit it, look up words that are being elusive and only post when I feel reasonably sure I won't look as daft as I feel.
I see people respond to the news of my diagnosis with dismissal, disapproval, and rejection. Mainly the people who I've spent time with in the past and had favorable interactions with. We tend to freeze people into timelines and roles in our minds. But those closest to me have been receiving me with open arms. Listening to my experiences with a desire to understand. And many of my closest friends turned out to be neurodivergent too. We do tend to be drawn to people who are most like us. I love that those are my most creative and big hearted friends. I'm so honored and proud to belong to this group.
Now I am in a place of developing resources that will help me to function with the new knowledge I have about why these things I go through keep happening to me. My body and mind are slowly starting to unwind from the tight knot they've been bound up in. But I'm also keenly aware of the need to continue to slow down the pace and release the pressure valves, as the knowledge alone does not keep the burnouts and meltdowns at bay. Autism is a circle of traits. On any given day some are stronger than others and my level of functioning changes at the drop of a dime.
I picture a cat sitting on a counter among an array of personal items, knocking them to the floor at random. A hairbrush goes scattering; today I am unable to perform the daily tasks to groom myself. A pocket watch is bounced across the floor; I have absolutely no sense of time passing. There goes the photo album; I don't recognize my own daughter standing in front of me in the grocery store. What will the cat knock from the counter today?
It has always been this way. I've learned to adapt and hide these things out of fear and shame in the not understanding. Autistic masking is one of the biggest traits that cause women to limp through life undiagnosed. I very much fit the profile of learning how to be a person by studying how other people interact with each other. Now I understand why.
Girls of my generation were woefully under-diagnosed. Science is just now catching up with us. The number of adult women suddenly being diagnosed has everything to do with the fact that our traits as children caused us to be overlooked by the researchers. We were malleable and eager to please. We were quiet daydreamers, too fearful to speak up in class. We were the last ones to make it out of school at the end of the day, dragging our book bags stuffed with unfinished assignments, tripping over our untied shoelaces, and looking for the mitten that was just in our hands. Painfully afraid.
As I process these things I often find myself wanting to share in my writing. But I've had nowhere to put it out there until now. The new blog and website will continue to be about my art, community, and classes. Here I will allow myself the freedom to just write.
If you've made it this far, I thank you for the time you invested in reading this.
The new website is called Canary Rising and can be found at this link.
The new blog can be directly accessed at this link.
The current course offerings are all listed here.
With so much love and gratitude,
Crystal Marie
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